Mental Health and Wellbeing
At The Rosedale Hewens Academy Trust, we realise how important it is to take care of your mental health and wellbeing. Your mental health and wellbeing is extremely important to us. Please take a look at the useful information and support links provided below to help support you or someone else you care about.
The Anna Freud National Centre for Children and Families is a world leading mental health charity. Their Parents and Carers resources offer advice and guidance to help support children and young people who may be struggling with poor mental health.
All parents, guardians and carers sometimes argue with one another, but sometimes, conflict between parents or carers can increase to a level that is not healthy for the family. This can happen for lots of reasons. For example, the Covid-19 lockdown, where families share the same space under increased stress and uncertainty about the future, with reduced support from friends and extended families, may increase arguments.
Conflict can also occur when parents and carers are managing stress or worries about financial issues, issues of trust and fidelity, parenting practices, or where there is stress or trauma in the family. This includes when parents or carers have decided to separate. Stress does not just make conflict more likely, but it also makes us less able to manage conflict. When we are stressed, we are less able to think objectively and see things from another person’s point of view, and more likely to react in automatic, poorly thought through ways.
Think how might your child have been exposed to parental conflict? This goes beyond arguing in front of your child, it can be much subtler than that. It can be painful to think about these things, so use your network for support, but it is really important to consider how your child may be harmed by conflict.
Anna Freud encourage parents, guardians and carers to adopt a shared mantra: ‘No matter what the conflict is between the parents, we must work together to protect the child from that conflict and maintain their relationship with both parents.’
For many parents, guardians and carers, finding time for yourself can be a challenge as you juggle family and relationships with your home and work life. This can be especially true if you are supporting a child or young person with their mental health.
With the practicalities of day-to-day life, it can be easy to forget to look after your own wellbeing needs, as well as those of your children, which can lead to feelings of stress or being overwhelmed. Factoring in regular time or activities for yourself will hopefully allow you to enjoy the good moments in life more and to find strength during difficult times.
Whilst self-care is important, it is important to recognise that if you are struggling as a parent or carer with your mental health and wellbeing that you know that there is help and support out there for you. Your GP should be able to offer help and support and, if necessary, refer you to an adult mental health service. Where possible, try to talk to a trusted friend or relative so they are also aware of how you’re feeling and can check in on you. The below organisations also offer crisis support for parents and carers:
AFC Crisis Messenger – Text AFC to 85258 for free 24/7 crisis support
Family Lives – Charity offering crisis support for parents, guardians and carers
Urgent Mental Health Support
Children, young people and their families can get free help, advice and urgent mental health support from 24/7 crisis telephone lines available in every London borough.
Every NHS mental health trust in London has put these in place, so children, young people and their families can get help quickly when they need it. Professionals are also able to access these crisis lines if they are concerned about or would like advice about a child, young person or family. The crisis lines are supported by trained mental health practitioners, who can offer advice and signpost other sources of support as needed.
Please click on the download below for a brief information pack with details of these crisis lines as well as other support available (e.g. Shout, Good Thinking and Kooth).
Grief After Bereavement or Loss
Most people experience grief when they lose something or someone important to them. If these feelings are affecting your life, there are things you can try that may help.
Support is also available if you're finding it hard to cope with stress, anxiety or depression.
Bereavement, grief and loss can cause many different symptoms and they affect people in different ways. There's no right or wrong way to feel.
As well as bereavement, there are other types of loss such as the end of a relationship or losing a job or home.
Some of the most common symptoms include:
- Shock and numbness- This is usually the first reaction to loss, and people often talk about "being in a daze"
- Overwhelming sadness, with lots of crying
- Tiredness or exhaustion
- Anger – towards the person you've lost or the reason for your loss
- Guilt – for example, guilt about feeling angry, about something you said or did not say, or not being able to stop your loved one dying
These feelings may not be there all the time and powerful feelings may appear unexpectedly.
It's not always easy to recognise when bereavement, grief or loss are the reason you're acting or feeling differently.
Here are some additional useful websites:
Principal: Ms Karina Porter
Contact Number: 020 8573 2097